They are by definition not in the NOW. The fact is that in the present moment you ARE apart so your reference to the relationship relationship gets tangled by time. The relationship is either in memory (past) or in fantasy (future).
Of course relationships work best when they are grounded in present reality. We often colour the past either rose or black depending on our present mood and we prejudice our future with a whole weight of dreams and expectations. "Wait and see" is a good line for any emotion or plan you have while separated.
This seems to somewhat contradict the earlier point made about long distance relationships needing a finite duration – this is planning the future. Yet living in the present does not preclude planning – it just precludes projection into "might be" and "wouldn’t it be great if". Plan to be together then "wait and see" how it is.
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